I've been saying it for years, if you look at the bears and their social circles, they all look the same. Which, in turn, makes it so so exclusionary, like you said.
So I publish a nontraditional wedding blog that's been around for decades, and one of my favorite things is sharing ren faire weddings because they contradict so much of what people like to say about hotness and relationships.
Let me explain: many of the folks having ren faire weddings were not what you would call conventionally attractive, but they were consistently having the most sex of any of us. The weddings were all bi/pan/poly with the plus size bride having 2 girlfriends and the 5'4" groom having an elf on the side and the wedding receptions having sex tents and ok fine I'm exaggerating a bit for effect but only just barely! My editors used to joke that based on the ren faire weddings we saw, the folks people dismissed as "ugly nerds" were having wayyyy more fun and a LOT more sex than the rest of us -- by many magnitudes.
So whenever people try to talk about having to be young, hot, fit, whatEVER to get laid, I'm just like y'all. Have you never been to a ren faire?? Your misconceptions about what it takes to get a date are woefully wrong. You need social skills, bravery, and emotional flexibility.
i feel like the last sentence of rejection, the one that says (spoiler) that you need to accept the rejection to be truly rejected, acknowledges the input and outputs you mention and that self worth lies within the individual and not the system
I've been saying it for years, if you look at the bears and their social circles, they all look the same. Which, in turn, makes it so so exclusionary, like you said.
So I publish a nontraditional wedding blog that's been around for decades, and one of my favorite things is sharing ren faire weddings because they contradict so much of what people like to say about hotness and relationships.
Let me explain: many of the folks having ren faire weddings were not what you would call conventionally attractive, but they were consistently having the most sex of any of us. The weddings were all bi/pan/poly with the plus size bride having 2 girlfriends and the 5'4" groom having an elf on the side and the wedding receptions having sex tents and ok fine I'm exaggerating a bit for effect but only just barely! My editors used to joke that based on the ren faire weddings we saw, the folks people dismissed as "ugly nerds" were having wayyyy more fun and a LOT more sex than the rest of us -- by many magnitudes.
So whenever people try to talk about having to be young, hot, fit, whatEVER to get laid, I'm just like y'all. Have you never been to a ren faire?? Your misconceptions about what it takes to get a date are woefully wrong. You need social skills, bravery, and emotional flexibility.
omg love that you brought in rejection into this! another great one, thanks for the shoutout :)
i feel like the last sentence of rejection, the one that says (spoiler) that you need to accept the rejection to be truly rejected, acknowledges the input and outputs you mention and that self worth lies within the individual and not the system