I do like that communication is the crux of your argument but it’s just the same issue in the opposite direction. Stating that if the conversation isn’t had then it’s not a relationship while also deriding people who seem to be seeking that but aren’t likely to be given the chance to due to modern dating conventions is just settling for the current state of affairs. Which you being someone with an avoidant attachment style benefits from.
I do like that communication is the crux of your argument but it’s just the same issue in the opposite direction. Stating that if the conversation isn’t had then it’s not a relationship while also deriding people who seem to be seeking that but aren’t likely to be given the chance to due to modern dating conventions is just settling for the current state of affairs. Which you being someone with an avoidant attachment style benefits from.
This is a fair point! It's hard to get into the nuance and every situation is different, but the overarching narratives are pretty fixed and constant.
printing this out as supplemental reading for my therapist!
pls 😭
I'm reading this a year after you've posted it and find it resonating with me! thank you for writing it!
This needed to be said, and you said it so well!
This is brilliant. Thank you!